I'm a test this out right quick on y'all
Now keep in mind I'm an artist and I'm sensitive about my shit So y'all be nice about it, alright
So, I read this meme the other day that said, “once you become a certain age, it is your responsibility to unlearn behaviors that hinder your growth”, I literally wanted to comment and tell her to just tag me next time she decided to make a post about me! Sis, I’m working on it! Like seriously… but here’s the one thing I’ve learned about working through this process, this is not something we have the capacity or capability of doing on our own. This needs to be done with the help of a professional, a licensed professional counselor. I know, I know you got this right sis? You can just head over to Amazon or your local bookstore (Do those even exist anymore?) and load up on self-help books and get yourself together real quick but tell me how’s that been working out for you. “The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice” Proverbs 12:15. Don’t get mad at me I didn’t say it King Solomon said it, blame him if you’re feeling attacked.
Here’s the thing I get it, we are strong, and we got this, right? Let me share a story with you real quick. A while ago I was having some tech issues with my laptop trying to do some fancy stuff with screen sharing with my iPad (something I learned at YouTube University, where I earned my PhD) and it wasn’t working for me. I followed all the directions that had worked for this little techy guy and his computer and iPad and I was getting frustrated. At this point I was invested, I mean all in, and tried everything the internet told me I should try and guess what, IT DIDN’T WORK. Talk about annoyed, your girl was heated. So I had no choice but to call Apple tech support to get some help from the experts. As I sat on the phone with Apple for what seemed like forever, I started to think about how this situation was very similar to how I have handled a lot of other things in my life.
After experiencing some major life changes, I was feeling overwhelmed and exhausted with life and doing what I do best. I was like “I got this” and I headed straight to Pinterest, my friends, and self-help books for help and guess what, IT DIDN’T WORK. So I decided to enlist the help of a trained professional and started therapy. It took some time, patience and work just like my call with Apple, but guess what it helped, and I am in the process of healing and learning to become more aware of those things that have been emotional roadblocks to my own self-awareness. Listen, the moral of this story is simply stop trying to handle it on your own.
I want you to stop holding on to things that serve you no purpose. I’m not going to lie to you, it's not going to be easy, and you are going to have to deal with some stuff! It might hurt before the healing starts to make sense. But as one of my favorite Pastor’s once said, “growth without change is impossible” (shout out to Pastor Lowery) Let’s do this together! Listen, your girl is in a master’s program to become a Licensed Professional Counselor and I go to therapy, regularly. We in this together, I want to take y’all on this journey with me! I’m going to be vulnerable with y’all , because that’s what friend’s do. I want us to heal together. Therapy is a process of discovery and recovery, learning to regulate your emotions, it doesn’t mean you're “crazy”. So do yourself a favor and enlist the help of a professional.
BGH Tip #3: Self-care is an important part of mental health. Don’t get so caught up in taking care of everyone else that you forget about you. This week find something that makes you happy that you’ve been neglecting for a while and do just that.
Until next time take care of yourself, I love you and I mean it.